One commenter has asked that I blog more about how forgiving may help the indivual themselves so here it is!
Firstly we should understand what the nature of forgiveness is, what does it mean to forgive? The Oxford Dictionary says this;
forgive |fərˈgiv|verb ( past -gave ; past part. -given ) [ trans. ] stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offence, flaw, or mistake.
It doesn't mean you have to best buddies and whilst it does mean not wishing them eternity in hell, they may still need to be punished in accordance with the law (if we are talking about forgiving an illegal action).
So why would it help you to forgive others?
It is hard to be engaged with your present if you are still stuck in the past. If you keep dwelling on something that someone did, you may miss opportunities in your present life. You have that anger festering in your mind, heart, your soul. Where is the room for love?
I probably have no more than 70 more years on this earth, where is the point in spending it worrying about things that have already happened, things that I can't change. Why be angry at past experiences, no, it is better that I concentrate on what is ahead of me. I want to finish this race with no regrets.
In forgiving, I'll be happier, healthier (because lack of stress does improve overall health). I'll be more interesting in spending time with people I love because I won't be thinking about people I hate. It will help me handle situations better in the future. It will make me stronger.
Lastly, if I thought I was incapable of forgiveness that means I would be unable to understand anyone forgiving me and that is, perhaps rather selfishly, probably my own biggest incentive to forgiving others.